There are many ways to find out what values you have, and you probably know some of them already! There is no right or wrong way to do this. Below, you will find some helpful exercises and tools that can help you discover your values.

One way to think about your values is by doing a values card sort. 

Another way of exploring your values it asks yourself the following question.

Imagine that it’s ten years from now, and you have gathered all your closest friends and relatives to celebrate the last ten years of your relationship with them. It could be a small event, with only a few of your most intimate family, or maybe it’s a big party with everybody you care about. It’s your imagination, so you can make it look however you want.

Now imagine the person you are most close to. Imagine that they stand up to make a speech about you and your life together with them, what you mean to them, what you stand for, and the role you have played. Imagine them saying what it is, deep in your heart, you would most want to hear (not what they might realistically say).

Imagine them describing you, your strengths, and how you have contributed to your relationship with them. Close your eyes and take a couple of minutes.

Ask yourself, what did this exercise tell you about your values? What does it tell you about the sort of person you want to be?